Working with a therapist means starting a relationship based on vulnerability. It means getting to know someone who, starting out as a stranger, may quickly know some of the most intimate details of your life. This is not a decision that many people are willing to take lightly. I am frequently in the position to help people find a new therapist which inevitably becomes a daunting task for...Lear More
I have a ridiculously sensitive startle reflex that has made me the butt of jokes for many years. Every coworker, family member, and friend has at some point accidentally startled me. I even joke with new coworkers that they haven’t finished their orientation until they’ve made me jump. It’s just one of my quirks.
One thing I’ve noticed over the years is every time I’m startled, I reflexively...Lear More
This year has brought big changes to the Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Center: On August 1st, 2018, we opened the doors to our second location on New Leicester Highway. For several years, the CBT Center has been growing steadily in the services we offer and the number of clinicians on our team. Now with the second location, we have the space and resources to continue our goal of providing...Lear More
“I know what you’re thinking!”
Are you sure?
We’ve probably all been on both the giving and receiving end of this common flaw in logic. Sometimes it’s easier to notice it when others direct it toward us. Starting a sentence with, “You must think…” is an almost guaranteed way to get someone to disagree with us. The reality is that we have no idea what anyone else is thinking, yet we so...Lear More
Asheville’s first annual walk, 2017
I’ve heard the argument that obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) is one of the most difficult mental illnesses to live with. Imagine feeling intense anxiety over things that most people never think about, then believing you have to go to extreme lengths to make that feeling go away. Now imagine doing that while knowing that the fear is irrational to...Lear More
Over the years as a cognitive behavioral therapist, I’ve worked with numerous clients who are struggling with sleep. At first they start the conversation with, “I’m really upset about an argument with my spouse,” or “I’m here because I want to stop being so anxious.” Sleep is not the first thing on their mind when they walk into my office, but it probably is by the time they leave.
Insomnia is...Lear More
One of the main components of cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is learning to recognize flaws in our thinking, or cognitive distortions. If you’ve ever looked at yourself in a funhouse mirror, you may already know more about cognitive distortions than you realize. When you see yourself in that mirror, is that really you? Are those your eyes? Is that your nose? Are those your feet? Yes, of...Lear More
Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) differs from the the stereotype of talk therapy. Unlike many traditional talk therapies, CBT is designed to be a short-term process focused on learning skills to practice and apply. It combines awareness of unhelpful or inaccurate thinking with individually tailored practice work. Though everyone is different and some will take longer than others, many people...Lear More